5 Best Practices To Save Money Today

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Saving money has always been important to me.

Growing up, we didn’t have money.

I was forced to learn how to save money at a young age, and along the way, I’ve learned a few tricks and tips.

And with Covid-19 still in effect, increasing inflation, and the likelihood of no further stimulus checks, we’re all looking for more ways to save money today.

In this post, I’ll share with you five best practices on how to save money today.

Let’s dive in.

1: Cut Back on Expenses

When it comes to saving money, one of the best things you can do is to cut back on your expenses.

But first, it’s important to note that cutting expenses doesn’t mean living a less-than-average lifestyle.

You can still enjoy life while cutting back.

As Ramit Sethi points out, focus on cutting back on your top 3 cost buckets.

In my finance days, 80% of costs came down to 20% of your categories (Pareto principle).

For most of us, these costs include:

  1. Rent
  2. Dining out
  3. Personal expenses (clothing, toys, etc.)

To cut back on expenses in these areas, determine the following:

Rent

Rent is easily at the top of the highest cost buckets for most.

So reducing this cost can make a significant impact on your savings.

Ask these questions:

  • Can I find a cheaper place to rent?
  • Can I room with a roommate?
  • Can I sublease?
  • Can I move to a lower cost of living (LCOL) area?

One way to start seeing potential is to plug numbers into your spreadsheet.

Play with scenarios, e.g. “If my rent was $500/mo vs. $1000/mo, what would that look like? Where would I live in that range?”

You’ll quickly start to get some great ideas on how to lower your rent costs.

Dining out

When it comes to dining out, many people tend to overlook the fact that it can be one of the hardest areas to cut back on.

In fact, the average American pays $232 a month for commercially prepared meals and eats out four to five times a week.

Take $232, multiply by 12, and you get a staggering $2,784 spent eating out.

Personally, I’ve spent upwards of $5k on eating out….

That’s savings that could have gone towards investments.

You learn 🤷‍♀️

Questions to think about when cutting back on dining and eating out costs:

  • Can I cook at home more often, perhaps using things like the Instant Pot?
  • Can I replace full meals with appetizers?
  • Can I set a budget goal to eat out at specific frequencies?
  • Can I dine out only when I hang out with friends?

Be gentle when cutting back.

It’s hard to slash away dining costs, so strongly consider which areas you’re okay cutting back on. E.g. eating out 1x per week vs. 5.

Personal expenses

The next category that eats a big chunk into savings is personal expenses.

Personal expenses, also known as discretionary spending, include:

  • Entertainment
  • Travel
  • Clothing
  • Toys
  • Electronics
  • Gadgets
  • Movies

To reiterate, there is NOTHING wrong with spending on yourself.

The key, though, is to focus on your budget and what you’ve allocated yourself to spend.

For example, let’s say you allocate $100 dollars every month to spend on yourself. That’s $1200 per year to spend on yourself.

And if you save more than you spent, you can also consider rolling that amount over to next month.

Here are some questions to ask yourself when thinking about cutting back on personal expenses:

  • How much can I reduce my monthly expenses by cutting back on personal expenses?
  • Can I make better use of the personal things I’ve already purchased?
  • How much have I spent year-to-date? Why?
  • If I increase my budget, how does it impact my overall savings?

Too often, we feel trapped by our budgets. To me, that’s not a real budget.

A budget is flexible and is meant to work for you.

So long as you set a budget for yourself and stick to it, spend away!

2: Find Deals Online

One way to save money is to find deals online.

There are a number of websites that offer discounts on products and services.

You can also use apps like Honey that automatically find you great deals. I love this app because it searches for coupons for you and then automatically applies them to your basket.

How easy is that?

If you’re an entrepreneur, it can be tough to spend on monthly software subscriptions.

Instead, consider lifetime deals.

You can buy lifetime software deals at sites like Appsumo, Pitchground, and SaaSMantra where you pay once and get the product for life.

This is a great way to save money for your business.

3: Use Cashback Rewards Programs

Cashback rewards programs are a great way to save money on your purchases.

By using these programs, you can earn cashback on your purchases every time you make a purchase.

Some of the best credit cards for earning cashback include:

  • Chase Freedom
  • Chase Sapphire Preferred
  • American Express Blue Cash Preferred

Depending on the card, these cashback rewards can add up quickly.

Always remember to pay off your credit card monthly bill statement in full, so that you don’t owe any interest or debt.

4: Save Money Today Using Coupons

 

Coupons can be a great way to save money when shopping.

I personally have used both physical and digital coupons.

Hey, a deal’s a deal!

One app that I love using to find digital coupons and deals is Honey.

Honey is a free app that helps you find amazing deals and coupons for you automatically.

For example, when you’re ready to purchase an Appsumo software tool, just hit the Honey chrome extension and will show whether or not it found a deal. See my screen below:

Leverage coupons to your advantage to start saving money today.

5: Make a Budget and Stick to It!

Making a budget is one of the best ways to save money.

When you have a budget, you know exactly how much money you have available each month and what you can spend it on. You can also track your progress over time and see how much money you’ve saved.

What I love to do with my budget is to make it visual.

That means creating graphs and charts to showcase your financial progress.

An app I recommend trying out is YNAB (You Need A Budget).

It can be relieving to see your savings accumulate, which means more money for investments, projects, and more.

Here are some tips for making a budget, all of which can be in YNAB:

  • List your income sources (W2 job, side hustles, businesses, crypto)
  • Then list your monthly expenses. Include things like rent, utilities, groceries, transportation, and other bills.
  • Review your net savings percentage (income less expenses divided by expenses). Higher the percentage, the better (I like to aim for +30%)
  • With your budget in place, now figure out how much money you need to live comfortably

Making a budget is a powerful activity.

I’ve had my budget since 2009 and review monthly.

It’s a great reminder of why I save in the first – freedom, flexibility, comfort.

Plus, a budget helps you see things differently. Ask yourself, could I make more money via a side hustle?

Hmm….

Save Money Today

Saving money can be tough.

It’s not always easy saving and knowing that you’re also foregoing that fancy trip, car, or big-ticket item.

However, I would argue that it’s worth it.

Not having to work for another corporate?

Sign me up!

I hope this blog post about the 5 Best Practices to save money today helped you.

Embrace the Savings!

My mentee passed away

The news came as a shock.

It happened one week ago.

I learned of the news from a former colleague who pinged me via LinkedIn.

My mentee was only 29 years old.

I still have vivid memories of when we worked together.

He had joined fresh out of college.

His manager left one week into his newfound finance career.

In a short 6 weeks, he was already on the chopping block.

I mean, how the hell can you expect some kid to learn a job and get up and running without any support or training.

The next part I will always remember.

I booked time for us to sit down and train together.

He broke down and cried.

He said, “Yarty, I think I’m going to get fired.”

It made me incredibly sad to hear this.

So I took it upon myself to train him.

And that’s what I did.

I also did it because I knew about his past.

He had also lost direct family members.

It’s extremely difficult to perform under those circumstances.

Why do I know this?

Because I went through it.

Depression’s a bitch.

To anyone who may be suffering, my heart is with you.

This battle is the most difficult battle of our lives.

We will fight it together.

To my friend and mentee — I hope you’re in a better place.

You will be forever missed.

From family to friends to colleagues, we will miss you.

RIP bud.

Happy Holidays!

As 2021 comes to a close, I’m reflecting on what a journey this year was.

Despite Covid19 and the continuing pandemic, it was another strong year.

Personal growth, new and recurring business, embracing new challenges, and connecting with more amazing people.

Every year during this time, I spend 𝟮 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁.

Here are few questions I spend thinking about:

  • What did I accomplish?
  • What can I be proud of?
  • Am I still passionate about what I’m doing?
  • Did I help my friends achieve their goals?
  • Am I regretting anything? (regret minimization framework)

I use this time to reflect on what matters most to me.

I make it a priority to be open and honest with myself.

Because if I don’t, I’ll lose key insights not only about myself, but the things happening around me.

We seldom have time to think about ourselves.

Use this time to be deliberate and intentional.

After I’m done, I then send my insights to myself one year from now via FutureMe.

It’s a great way to remind myself of why I do what I do.

It also keeps me grounded in what matters.

Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed this.

Let’s all end 2021 strong.

Embrace the grind.

Your Belief In You

*This was originally posted on May 13, 2017

By Les Brown

“I can’t do this.”

“I’ve never done this before.”

“Why does it matter. I’ll fail anyways.”

How many times have you or someone else you know said this?

I know I have.

I’ve passed up on many opportunities due to the lack of self-belief.

But why do we think this way?

Growing up, I’ve had to be my own champion.

I had to pump myself up before big events, whether it was interviewing for a new job or competing in a grappling tournament. Rarely did I have someone nearby to say, “You can do this. Believe in yourself.”

Rather, the opposite and would go something to the effect of, “You could get hurt! Why bother? It’s a waste of time!”

I remember those moments. For whatever reason, I couldn’t get those words out of my head.

Now older, I believe more than ever we need to be our own champions.

We need to tell ourselves that it’s possible, that we have the ability to mold our circumstances, that we have to be intrinsically motivated.

We need to fight for what we want in this life.

I remember the first time I stepped into the cage for my MMA debut.

It was easily the most nerving moment of my life. I mean, I was about to step into a cage, in front of hundreds of strangers, with another man who wanted to hurt me.

I was ready to face the very real possibility that I could have my arm snapped off or be knocked unconscious. Publicly, no less.

But I also believed in myself I was ready. Why?

I had completed an eight-week training camp, sparring week in and week out with the best training partners and having the best coaches around.

I knew I prepared the best I could. I was training twice a day, 6 days a week for my fight.

I knew in my heart that regardless of the outcome, I put in the hard work and dedication. I believed in myself.

Thankfully, the result was positive. I won.

With all that said, believe in yourself.

Believe in yourself when no one else will.

We’re our own worst enemies, and more importantly, our own strongest advocates.

It’s amazing what humans can achieve when we believe in ourselves.

Remember, time flies and days become months, months become years.

Whatever is on our minds that we want to achieve, take the first step. Just take an action.

You won’t regret it.

Fearing the Unknown

*This post was made back in 2017.

“What gives your life purpose?”

Les Brown

I first heard this line maybe a month ago while randomly scrolling through YouTube.

Such a simple line.

So simple that I saved the video and now listen to it once a day.

And so I asked myself, what is my purpose? What do I have to fear?

Memory lane and where it started

During my days at UMass Amherst, I vividly recall asking myself where I wanted to be, what I wanted to accomplish, what were my dreams, and, like so many others, how I would make money (I still think about this).

There were many hard, painful days.

But the one thing I feared more than anything, more than any broken bone or punch to the face I’ve taken, was failing myself.

Giving up, to say it another way.

I remember when I failed an exam.

I remember when I lost my wrestling matches.

I remember not being accepted to my college of choice.

Heck, I remember when I cheated out of my lifting sets!

There’s a silver lining in all of this

But I remember the positive impact from all those experiences as well.

I learned I could deal with adversity, that I could own up and face my fears.

It wasn’t easy, and I’ll never advise that to anyone.

But it’s also why I savor those moments. We all can.

Because we can live to tell about it one day.

A new day to make a difference

With all that said, I continue to ask myself that very same question to this day.

What is my purpose?

What do I have to fear?

I know one thing’s for sure – I’ll keep pushing forward.

We only have this one life.

Live it.

How The Anchor Effect Can Lift You Through Tough Times

If you’re going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill

Many times in our lives we’ll face extremely difficult, almost impossible challenges.

Oftentimes, they happen randomly and unexpectedly.

You’re not prepared for them.

However, time and time again we’re able to face these challenges head-on.

Successfully or not, we get through them.

Let me share with you what I term the “Anchor Effect” and how it has helped me time and time again throughout my life.

What is the Anchor Effect?

Let’s start with how Wikipedia defines it.

“The anchoring effect is a cognitive bias whereby an individual’s decisions are influenced by a particular reference point or ‘anchor’. Once the value of the anchor is set, subsequent arguments, estimates, etc. made by an individual may change from what they would have otherwise been without the anchor.”

Wikipedia

In simple terms, our decisions are based on some previous experience we’ve had.

This is where my definition of the “Anchor Effect” comes into play for maximum, positive impacts.

I define it as “the ability to overcome inhumane, giant obstacles or challenges by leveraging past difficult experiences”.

Said another way, when you face a hard problem or challenging task anchor it on a previous hard experience.

How You Can Use The Anchor Effect To Lift You

Take a step back.

Breathe in.

Recollect all your challenging moments in life.

Remember what you felt in those moments: despair, disappointed, anxious, fearful.

Recall how, despite those emotions, you managed through.

Now let those moments be your guiding light for any difficult choices, decisions, or challenges up ahead.

Doing hard things becomes easier.

Because you’re allowing yourself to embrace fear, to embrace the difficult that lies ahead.

It’s only through these moments we truly find ourselves and what we’re capable of.

When you’re faced with these moments, write them down.

For example:

  • Create simple google spreadsheet
  • Write list of challenging experiences
  • Date each experience to reflect on
  • List how you managed through them and the impacts they had on you
  • Review periodically

This will be your “bible” when you face difficult challenges.

Your fears, your doubts, they won’t seem so big because you’ll be able to anchor them on your previous experiences.

My Personal Story

The “Anchor Effect” has been a big part of my life.

15 years ago, I was left homeless, penniless, and without family.

To be honest, I still don’t know how I managed to get through those times.

But deep down, I knew I would not quit.

Deep down, I knew I was a fighter. I was meant to fight through this.

Fast forward, being able to recall those tough experiences ultimately toughened me.

I learned to embrace fear head-on, to tackle the impossible, and to try new things.

The Anchor Effect is powerful.

It will make you do things you never thought imaginable.

Conclusion

So when you face life’s toughest moments (which will be many), refer back to the “Anchor Effect”.

Let it be your compass.

Know that you will get through these challenging moments.

That you will become stronger and more powerful from it.

Let those moments define you vs. breaking you.

Become a better version of yourself for it.

To my friends I’ve met throughout the US and the world, you inspire me.

It’s because of you I wrote this. I’m grateful we’ve had the chance to connect.

I’m reminded we’re not alone.

Stay strong.

Embrace the grind.

Taking action today can be life-changing

The truth is you don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.

Eminem

Growing up, I was deeply fascinated by things.

Football, baseball, wrestling, boxing, fighting, internet, AIM (yup, we’re old), Myspace (what now?)…the list goes on.

I don’t know why, but I would get entrenched in the topic.

I would study the hell out of it, understand its basics and fundamentals, watch videos, and then discuss it with friends.

Yeah, they may have (most certainly were) annoyed,

But after graduating from college, I joined a Fortune 100’s finance management program.

And just like that, interests gone. Dwindled.

I stopped caring.

It wouldn’t be until December 2012, sitting on the porch with my whiskey that I realized I just stopped caring.

I let myself go.

I took no action.

That, right there, hurt more than anything.

I prided myself on taking action, trying harder, improving myself, and beating the odds.

On that chilly December night was my birthday and I started realizing how many regrets I had.

Damn

So I asked myself while dozing off, “What do I regret not doing that I could do NOW?”

Mixed martial arts.

That was it.

Since high school, I always wanted to try my hands at MMA and fighting inside the cage.

Why?

Because I was deathly scared.

Being punched in the face, being knocked out, being doubted, doubting myself.

I was petrified. It was paralyzing.

Yet, I wanted it more than anything.

I wanted it for one reason and one reason only:

To prove that I could overcome my fears.

That night was the turning point in my post-college life.

Many decisions thereafter came as a result of that night.

Choosing to live a better life, making money, dreaming of retirement and freedom, fighting inside the cage, volunteering and becoming a board member, being open to opportunities.

Simply, being alive again.

I was dead for a long time.

But that night, that cold night with 2-3 whiskeys down in me, made me realize I had to stop fucking around.

That was 2012.

That was 9 years ago.

So much has changed since then.

I have a son, fought inside the cage, quit my job, learned to code, started businesses, met incredible people, married love of my life and more.

All because of that one night.

My ask of you

What’s something you’re regretting now that you could take action on today?

What would you regret when you’re 80 years old reflecting back of your life?

Have you reached out to the people you love letting them know you love them?


Spend time reflecting. Block out 1-2 hours.

Don’t let another hour go by.

We’re all on a path to somewhere in life.

I truly believe we’re all fighters in one way or another.

Stay well.

The grind can be lonely

“Take the journey even if it means alone.”

Anonymous

Since November 2020, I’ve been running, executing, curating, marketing and financing Kick Ass Letters, a private community of like-minded people who are seeking to take on comfort challenges.

As someone who’s never ran either a weekly newsletter or a community, it’s been quite a experience.

On one end, I love it as I’m learning something new, meeting new faces, and connecting with like-minded people who want similar things in life.

On the other, it’s been a lonely journey that has me spending 95% of my time alone (the other 5% I spend meeting people on Lunchclub or attending Dru’s awesome Trends Tribe calls).

With all that said, this whole process been a grind.

As a parent to one little boy, a co-founder of an accounting business, and trying my best to be an amazing husband, I’m wary that my time is being allocated in multiple buckets.

What does that mean?

It can be overwhelming, although mentally I tell myself things are fine. (I know when they aren’t because I’ll start catching a cold or fever.)

One thing that’s been helpful for me to overcome this overwhelming feeling is to daily journal.

I try my best to be as honest as possible, to be truthful on where I can improve, and to be grateful for what I do have in my daily journal sessions.

Here’s an example of my Nimbus template below, feel free to duplicate here:

All that said, I’m really grateful and excited to keep Kick Ass Letters going.

We now have close to 300 subscribers, which is baffling.

What was a crazy idea to me at the time has become something that resonates with 300 others.

I hope Kick Ass Letters can become what I think it can — a movement for like-minded people who’re seeking to challenge themselves into becoming the best versions of ourselves.

I know we can do this.

It’ll be amazing to see how much we can accomplish when we get to do it together — as a community.

Look forward to sharing more updates with you. Stay tuned!

2020 Review & Perspectives

“Learn to value yourself, which means: fight for your happiness.”

2020, what a year.

Every year, I spend an hour or two doing all of the following:

  • Write up an annual review of what I’ve accomplished, need to improve, new bucket list items, and so on (using Notion this year for this)
  • Create next year’s financial budget (gives me comfort)
  • Write letters to myself and loved ones in the future using FutureMe

I do all of this because it’s incredibly important to me to not lose sight of who I am and to focus on my loved ones.

When I was working full time in my corporate position, I was losing sight of what mattered and what was important to me.

What was meant for me to live a fulfilling, happy and honest life was now just about doing anything and everything possible to get that illustrious promotion.

Honestly, it was burning me out and making me sad.

But it wasn’t until I started doing annual reviews of myself that I started to see the big picture: what I wanted to do, accomplish, try, eat, etc.

It gave me perspective on life.

This year was unlike any year. Because unlike years prior, we lived through a pandemic! Madness ?

But the pandemic also shed light into new opportunities. Here’s just a taste of what I was able to try and take challenge on as a result

  • Did a ton of networking & 1-1 calls through platforms like Lunchclub, Focusmate and communities like Trends.vc
  • Met some really amazing people like Noah Kagan, Dru Riley, and many more
  • Tackled the social media world through Linkedin and Twitter (I’m an introvert, so doing this kind of stuff gives me anxiety at times)
  • Tried a ton of growth experiments for our business Meet A4E and gained customers, subscribers, etc.
  • Launched my own newsletter Kick Ass Letters
  • Tried and experimented a ton of new no code tools like Airtable, Zapier, Mailerlite (I count it), Swipe Pages and many more
  • And finally, and most importantly, watched my son grow up right before my eyes with my wife – priceless

So as you can see, 2020, although being a very challenging year with respects to politics and of course covid, was a good year.

Did it yield all of the results I’d hope for? Not necessarily.

Did I hit all my goals? Not even close.

But I was happy? Yes.

And that’s what matters in the end.

At times, I do admittedly feel nervous, anxious and in general feel like I should have done more.

But I keep reminding myself, it’s the long game. Step by step, piece by piece.

In the end, this is my only life. Our only life.

I need to remind myself that things will be okay, to take a step back and reflect, and even more important, take a deep breath.

So yeah, there you have it.

2020, you’ve been awesome, amazing and at times, just awful.

But I’m thankful because I’m still here, with my wife and son, and surrounded by amazing, down-to-earth friends and people.

So to 2021, here we come. A new start, a new beginning, new goals and dreams, and a new year.

To all of you, have an amazing Happy New Year! ?

Videos that have made a big impact on me

“Good enough is not good enough if it can be better. And better is not good enough if it can be best.”

Over the years, I’ve watched a series of videos, specifically on Youtube, to gain insights and to be inspired.

I thought I’d share some of these videos that have helped inspire me, learn new things, gain new skills, and so on.

Here they are below:

David Goggins – Train Your Mind

Rick Rigsby – Simple Words

Les Brown – Fear No Evil

Les Brown – Think Your Way To Success

Carl Sagan – We Humans Are Capable Of Greatness

Carl Sagan – Pale Blue Dot

Size Comparison of the Universe (shows how small we are)

Final Thoughts

There have been many more videos I’ve watched that have helped shape me, which I’ll make another post on soon.

But these videos are ones I come back to time and time again. They help me reflect, see what’s important and realize how insignificant we actually are in the grand scheme of things.

Why’s that important?

Because we should pursue what we love with intense devotion. Make it matter.

They also serve as a reminder that being kind and nice pays off. Because our lives are too short and we never know if tomorrow will come.

Live life fully, be happy, and treat people well.

Focus on what matters to you

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”

Focus on what you can control.

Focus on what you can take action on.

Focus on the people that you care about.

Focus on what matters to you.

Focus on your priorities.

Focus on what makes you happy.

Whatever your focus is, embrace it and go for it.

There’s 24 hours a day, and every second is ticking away.

Try not to allow negative people sway you from your dreams.

Be positive, be around positive people, and be around supportive people.

Whatever it is you do, be proud and go for it.

Focus on a direction, make a choice, and push forward.

Life’s just a series of choices

If you think about it, life’s just a series of choices.

Should I eat this? ✅/❌

Should I apply for that job? ✅/❌

Should I quit my job? ✅/❌

As you can see, when confronted with decisions we just have to make a choice.

Right or wrong.

Sure, you could say maybe.

But that just then leads to delays, indecisiveness, and lack of progress.

Here’s a great quote from Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon:

In the end, we are our choices. Build yourself a great story.
Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon
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The average age of death in the US is currently 78.93 (source).

Translated into days, that’s approximately 28,809.45 days to live (calculation).

In 2017 when I quit my corporate career, I deeply reflected and asked myself what I would be doing for the next 50 years.

Mindlessly crunching numbers in Excel at wee hours into the night for a cause I could careless?

Hell no.

It wasn’t until I quit my job in 2017 that I realized it was up to me to make my own choices, to pave my own path, and to take control of my decisions.

No one else was going to do that for me.

In the end, that’s all it is — choices.

Trust your gut, take a leap of faith, and push forward.

Live life, be happy.

Kick Ass Letters is live!

Kick Ass Letters

Finally, I’ve officially launched Kick Ass Letters, a crowdsourced weekly email challenge series to help people take action towards self-growth and personal development.

I decided to create this project for many reasons, but the main one was to ultimately help people who may be struggling to find motivation and purpose in life.

Why?

Because this was me.

It wasn’t until I made a choice back in 2017 to quit my job and backpack Southeast Asia that I felt alive again. I felt like I could do something that was beyond being a corporate drone.

I also decided to create this project because I understand what it’s like to be depressed and sad feeling unfulfilled.

I lived many, many years in depression and sadness after the loss of both parents and a younger sister. I never opened up about this to friends because I always felt like a burden.

That’s another reason I created this project.

Community.

I wanted to create something special for others to learn, grow and perhaps even make friends.

Life’s just too fucking short to live in anger, sadness and political bullshit.

So my hope and goal with Kick Ass Letters is to make people feel alive again and live with a sense of purpose.

But I’m also aware many won’t understand or come along with this journey.

And that’s okay.

I hope in time more and more people will join this movement.

The world has seen enough suffering, and I hope we can all fight together and embrace each other.

Yes, I’m an optimist.

In fact, I consider myself an optimistic nihilist. ?

If life doesn’t matter and no one cares, then why not do what we want to do without hurting others.

That’s my approach at least.

Anyways, I hope you will join me with Kick Ass Letters.

I hope you will be part of this movement.

I hope we can do this together.

Most importantly, I hope we can live our best lives, be happy and show our love to the people who matter most to us.

Till next time ?

Being true to myself

Yarty CES Fight

For the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling with my identity.

Social media has questioned me on what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. E.g. why do I get so damn bothered when someone unfollows me?

I’ve found myself on LinkedIn and Twitter posting things that were sometimes true to my heart and sometimes only to gain followers.

And it had me thinking…why?

Why does it matter?

In the end, we only have one life. It could be long, could be short. We could die tomorrow.

And should it be spent trying to mask ourselves to please others?

The answer is clearly no.

So I’ve decided to be myself, my true self.

Who am I?

I’m a proud father, husband, fighter, orphan, entrepreneur and brother.

I’ve dealt with my fair share of tragedies, fuck ups and regrets.

At my core, I’m a fighter who’s struggled with adversity and hardship all my life. That’s why I got into MMA in the first place.

Yet, I care and empathize deeply with others.

I loved this recent video made by Noah of OkDork/Appsumo on therapy as well as his recent podcast with Lori Gottlieb.

We need more of this, and I was sad to hear that this video didn’t do as well as his other videos. Noah – if you’re reading this by any chance, please continue putting these kinds of videos out.

Finally, if you ever want to chat via Zoom/Meet, hit me up. I’m always up to meet new people.

Thank you for making it this far. I hope you’re safe and doing well.

Till next time. ?

P.s. I’m launching a new project that actually excites me. It’s called Kick Ass Letters, and my mission with it is to empower everybody to learn and grow through weekly email challenges.

You can refer to the link to learn more about why I’m doing this. And if you’re interested in checking it out or even helping shape the project, check out the link above. Thanks!

I failed.

I failed.

Hear me out.

For the longest time, I’ve been compelled to do things that made others happy.

For the longest time, I’ve felt that my goal was to mask who I am to make others accept me.

Weird and somewhat sad, I know.

My upbringing was difficult, and when both of my parents passed away tragically, a (very large) piece of me died inside forever.

The reality is, time does not heal all wounds.

Instead, with passing time comes the ability to see hope and promise. You just tend to see a little more light day by day, maybe drink a little less day by day, and maybe see some hope day by day.

But you never forget.

This was the case for me.

It took me many years before I came out of the dark, where I realized I could still live a full life and be happy.

It’s now been close to 3 years since I quit my corporate finance career. Sure, perhaps I could have been a Director, VP, perhaps even a CFO at this point.

But it wouldn’t have changed the fact that the politics, bureaucracy and back-stabbing would always be there.

And that’s what I hated most.

These past 3 years has been such a refreshing experience being out on my own and becoming a Founder.

It’s allowed me to see a bigger world out there, meet some incredibly inspiring people and achieve new realizations about myself (I know what SEO is…what?)

This is where I feel like I’ve succeeded.

I’ve taken a giant leap towards the unknown and have made an honest attempt to realize my dreams without compromising my value (key one being, don’t be an asshole to people).

Because of this, I’m realizing that failure is just that – a term.

We can only fail if we deem it as such.

It can be tempting to feel like a failure, especially given the widespread use of social media these days. Every day it seems like millionaires and successful people are popping out of nowhere.

But the reality is this – the average person can still succeed in their own ways.

And we should celebrate that.

Finally, I wanted to share I’m working on an exciting project that may be one of the most important projects I’ve ever worked on.

I’m working on a community-based newsletter to celebrate every day people. I hate the way society has shaped the world into thinking that unless you’re making it “rain” (money), you haven’t made it.

This sucks.

So I plan to change that. I hope to see a world where we truly can help each other out, make each other happy, not manipulate others for our own self-benefit and can celebrate our (big or small) wins.

That’s the world I want to live in.

Be on the lookout as I’ll announce it in the next few weeks (or even days).

Anyways, before I forget, I hope you’re doing well. These are scary times with Covid, and it’s completely changed the landscape of the world.

Nevertheless, stay safe, stay healthy, and most importantly, stay happy.

Till next time!